Gone Too Soon

While on Facebook this morning, I saw a post my friend made saying that if she were to be in a relationship, she'd be emotionally unavailable. It sort of made me a little sad because she's not the first person, my age , younger, or older than me, to say something like this. We are so young, but it seems like this generation is turning so cold so early. To be so young and to get hurt that bad that you feel like truly loving someone whole-heartedly and being loved in return is unlikely, is so sad to me.

It made me realize that we as a generation have let a temporary hurt become something so permanent due to holding on to those old fears. And no, this isn't new to people who were before us, but it seems like it's almost in all of the peers I have. 

And I realized I'm one of those people. I let the bad outcomes I have had with others, hinder my progress because I can't let go. This just reminds me of a quote I saw of Iyanla Vanzant that said, "Let go and move on.. or hold on and stay stuck." and it really is that simple. We are too young to give up on something we all deserve, which is love. I refuse to let past hurts from family, friends, and intimate relationships, stop me from growing in those same areas. 

I know it's scary to open up when you've let so many in. It's a used type of feeling. You feel like closing up will be the safest way to keep yourself sane, to prevent breaking in front of anyone ever again. But I learned it's not about opening up that's the issue, but rather who all you are letting into your sacred space. Everyone isn't worthy, this is true, but some are. Don't miss out on a great thing, loves.

Hopefully this helps someone.