Men, Know Your WORTH !!!

Story for you all:

I went to Mizzou's homecoming ball yesterday to accompany a friend. While there, I got to see a lot of other friends of mine. Two school mates and also very close friends of mine ended up coming as well. So, once the food was cleared off the tables, chairs were pushed back, everyone did what they do best.. dance. We were all having a good time and then I noticed someone. Someone me and my two classmates knew as a mutual friend and one of my friends just so happened to like this particular guy once upon a time. When we noticed him this time, we saw his new girlfriend.

Now we all heard that he had begun dating. There were no harsh feelings toward him. Though of course as women, knowing your friend likes someone can make you a little biased, we always have remained cordial after finding out he began a relationship out of the blue.

Okay, here's my point for the "pointless" background story... this girl was, excuse my french, BUSTED. Not in a bad way, but in a TERRIBLE way. Not just because my friend wasn't the" chosen one", but because this girl was legit not IT! This guy is handsome, good head on his shoulders, clean cut.. you know, all the works.I just wouldn't have thought for him to settle for someone that you basically see every day.. someone so typical, someone with no real substance. She looked like a female who loved Gotti over Mos Def.. K. Michelle over Anita Baker. You know?

Me and my friends immediately referred back to a conversation that we had. We discussed the fact that every time we see a guy with a girlfriend, they always choose the most ratchet, the most basic, the most ... ugh. It's very insulting!

The whole point of me "bashing" this unfortunate couple (lol) is to tell you what I've learned. It's that we as young/older women are looking at the potential of these men and not looking at how they see themselves! We expect them to feel as worthy of themselves as we know they are/could be! My friends and I were baffled at his choice because we ASSUMED that HE knew he deserved something with more esteem, not something so basic. And this taught me that not only do women not know what they are really worth and what they deserve, but men have the same issue. This is why we constantly see Idris Elba's dating Trina's. Because to us, these particular guys are Idris, but they see themselves as Tyrone. 

Until yesterday, I didn't realize how much we as ladies underestimate our men. Just as much as we preach to one another about how we need to know our self worth and understand that we deserve more than what we think we do, we need to tell this to our men. They need to hear that they are of value and that they deserve more than a "bad bitch". Just as much as we deserve Kings, they deserve a Queen. 

I don't want it to come off as if I was bashing this young lady. I'm sure they are at a good place with each other. I was just using this example to describe my initial mind set and how my judgement of what it should be, was countered by what it REALLY is. And IT is that we put certain guys on pedestals to know, off the bat, that they are amazing.. instead of them feeling it for themselves. 

So men this is for you. Us women aren't the only ones settling.. So. are. YOU.